Men chase women and women loved to be chased by men. There is nothing new in this line, but it’s a fantasy of every man to be surrounded by beautiful girls, enjoy their charm, and if possible, get laid with as many. Many men work hard with a hope that if they will have enough money, they will be able to get best girls of the town; though it’s a stupid myth, but we love to live with myths. If broadly I categorize, the entire human journey of a common man is around Money, Power, Fame and Women. But I am going to focus here on only one journey, and here for me is: ‘African Girls’.
If you love company of girls and if it’s your dream to be around hot girls all the time, and if ‘skin color’ is not a problem, then Africa is the best place. I have been to East and Wes Africa, and I found everywhere that it’s easy to approach any local girl (black girl). In Africa, you can go and talk to any local girl and they will never mind, they always smile and greet you well, it’s their culture. They are very free spirited, warm, and don’t have much air around them. No matter from which class they are: low, middle, upper, they all are with ease and could be approached anywhere, anytime. Isn’t sounds good?
In this world where most of the beautiful girls are busy in throwing tantrums and always love to be treated like princess, for men’s world, African-Girls are big relief. But do you really think they come so cheap? There is nothing free in this world, and if anything that comes easy, maybe it’s more troublesome.
My love for exploring pubs, clubs and human behavior took me to all famous clubs of different cities in Africa. And one common thing I found everywhere, the moment you enter inside, you will find enough girls and they all are nicely dressed (trying to look elite). Some people can argue that they maybe prostitutes, hookers, but here I am not talking about this class. I am only talking about girls from middle and upper class, or say, from well educated class.
Even if you don’t talk to them, they will keep stalking on you, smile, and then you can’t resist that temptation. Move ahead few steps, have chat, and in next 2-3 hrs they would be ready to come with you, or at least they will pass their numbers to you.
If you are an expat, your skin color is fair; chances are more that you will take them easily. You will see all expats are busy inside: talking, hugging, kissing, playing around and smoke and seduction will be in air. If you will open your ears little bit more, you will start listening negotiations, where to go next etc.
Even on the first night, you can take them, enjoy and wake up next morning and go for breakfast to the best restaurants, hotels in the town, buy nice clothes and drop them at their place. But maybe whatever I have written so far doesn’t sound new, because this happens in every corner of this world. My readers will ask, what’s new?
After spending one night in club, few days later you will receive some messages, ‘Hey Honey, can you give me 300 US$?”. Some messages will read, “Hey, I am in urgent need of money, can you please give me 400 US$?”. You will be baffled that who are these girls? But these are same girls with whom you exchanged your numbers last night, and after giving numbers to five different girls you brought only one to home. And I am sure this thing only happens in Africa, this happens nowhere else. Nowhere else girls are so fast in asking money. In other worlds too they might be asking money, but only after spending few days, weeks or months. But in Africa, it happens within few hours. People live here on fast lane. They don’t only drive crazy on roads; they drive you crazy in your bedroom and also money out of your wallet. These girls are looking for instant money.
Now if you reply for that message with a hope that, it’s fine, I will give her some money but only after getting the juices out. You will write her back, “Ok, but can we meet first?” and you will get instant reply. “Sure, but keep in your mind that money”. If you reply, “Sorry, but I can’t pay you without meeting you, I don’t remember your face..”. Another reply, “Bye Honey, find other girls..”. I am sure any person will get pissed off and won’t reply back, and soon you will forget this exchange of messages.
But after 2-3 days again you will receive message from same girl, “Honey, what about only 100 US$?”. You will be amazed to see their persistence, and if you say, “No”, again they will message you, “What about only 50 US$, reply me fast, I need it urgently..” Don’t get surprised, it’s quite common in Africa and it happens only in Africa. When you met that girl in that high class club, in nice dress, with designer bags and esp. when she said that she works with UN, WHO, WFP, or some international energy conservation org. you would have never imagined this kind of behavior. You would have never imagined that, this girl who is so well qualified; working with well known corporations will behave like this.
Now big question is, are they prostitutes? This word sounds very indecent, and of course we shouldn’t use such words for them. But then question is, what’s a boundary between prostitutes who upfront fix the rates and go with you, and between these girls who pretend to be from big family, educated abroad, working with international bodies, and later keep asking money, latest I-phone, I-pad, laptop etc.
Their maintenance costs are very high; they don’t believe much in long term relationships. As long as you are spending money on them, they are with you, but the day you will start creating an iota of suspicion that you no longer interested in spending money, they will drift apart and find some other expat.
They don’t believe in age, color, body shape of male world. Their fundamentals are very clear, find a person who has money and ready to spend on you. It doesn’t matter they are dating 80 yrs old man, married man with kids or someone who has 200 kg of weight. They are quite spiritual in that way, they don’t focus on body much, and they see something much deeper.
They keep coming with stories that their sister died, father died, some relative died and they need some help. For them to kill someone for money is not a big issue, they keep killing every second day, and their lies are easy to figure out, they look quite dumb when they come with such stories. They do this with this conviction that they have to rob these expats who are coming to their country and making more money than what they earn. But they don’t want to work hard and improve things in life.
Some people will say that poverty is major reason behind this behavior. But that argument doesn’t go well. These girls are not from poor class, they are from middle and upper class, they are well educated, but still they are indulged in such things. This fallacious behavior doesn’t justify anything.
If you go deep you will find answers behind such behavior. I meet locals daily at work place, met them during traveling, and after observing their behavior I reached to following conclusions: There is no culture of savings in Africa, they are very laid back and they always try to match lifestyle of Western people.
Now it’s a serious cultural problem. Africans live in today, they don’t think about future and they earn today and will spend all today. They don’t believe much in savings. They are squanders in their demeanor. If a girl’s monthly salary is 400 US$, she will buy branded leather bags, high heel sandals and clothes of 1000 US$. Now to compensate 600 US$ of deficit, and to live for the rest of the month, she has to find some expat. To attract expats, she has to dress pretty well, she has to smell nice, have to hang out at high end restaurants, clubs, and have to flaunt her assets , and finally find her goal (an expat). And there is no other way to manage such expensive lifestyle. A company of expat provides them nice lifestyle, an opportunity to live in luxurious apartments, swim in pools and to hangout to nice places. And it’s very easy to find such people, because there are plenty who are living single and away from their family and they are looking for quick emotional satisfaction. Now this thing I call, ‘Cultural Problem’.
I observed that there are many white people who are too much into black girls; they are so much into black girls that even if they go back to US-Europe, they try to find only black girls there. Isn’t sounds racist? There is famous proverb here, “If you go black, there is no comeback”. Poor white girls, but I know such people in my friend circle and they look quite happy this way. Many western don’t want to go back to their native country, because in Africa, it’s very easy for them to earn big salary, live laid back life, and to keep changing local girls like their laundry clothes; I know it’s sad, but truth is always full of sadness.
In Kenya I found many 80+ old men who had hardly enough energy to walk few steps, were hanging out with girls of the age of their granddaughter. For few people, it would sound very exotic. I am not in against of such relationships, we can even accept a girl of 20 yrs with an old man of 80 yrs, if there is deep emotion involved, but it’s rare to see such things, and you can easily figure it out.
I have seen poverty in India as well, there are many poor girls in India, but they are not in such things. Even I observed big Indian community here, they moved 3-4 generations back in Africa, and these girls are also not in such things, same for Arabs and Western girls.
Now in the end, I am not saying every local girl in Africa is like this, but I am talking about majority who are living in East, West and Central Africa. Maybe some people will say, we all have freedom to live life the way we want to, and I completely agree with them, but my last question is, “At what cost?”.